Domestic Abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, age or culture. Domestic Abuse can exist in any in any relationship – with partners, ex-partners or relatives.
Domestic abuse takes many forms and includes, but is not limited to:
- Physical Abuse
Assault, punching, kicking, hitting, forced imprisonment, biting, strangling, burning, dragging, using weapons, throwing objects.
- Sexual Abuse
Rape, sexual assault, forced prostitution, degradation, using objects, forced to watch or act in pornography.
- Psychological Abuse
Verbal or emotional abuse, threats to kill, blaming, mind games, criticism, accusations, jealousy and obsessive behaviours, manipulation, sleep deprivation.
- Financial Abuse
Preventing a person from getting or keeping a job, taking money, not permitting access to or withholding family income, keeping account of all money spent, the perpetrator deliberately running up debts (often in the victim’s name) or not paying the rent.
- Isolation/Coercive Control
Not being allowed to see others, to see who you want, denied any form of contact with family or friends and any other support networks, not being allowed to learn the language, not being allowed to attend appointments (even medical appointments) alone.
The police have specialist domestic abuse officers trained to help you and put you in touch with other agencies who can help you with safety planning, housing issues, drug or alcohol problems or give details of solicitors who specialise in any legal family matters.
If you are in an abusive relationship, or you know someone who is, advice and support is available:
The Police – 999 (always call the police if the situation is an emergency)
Hillingdon Independent Domestic Violence Advocate (IDVA) – 020 8246 1745